Actual locker-room talk today was with my friend who is one of the few other guys who practices Saturday's "Barre Basics". We were talking about life and stuff, and in particular we commiserated about waking up in the middle of the night and worrying about the infinite amount of work yet to be done for our clients.
I presented my theory: You wake up in the dead of night for any reason or no reason. Maybe older guys just don't need as much sleep, maybe we just hit a shallow point and woke ourselves up with a snore. Then, there I am, awake and my brain needs an explanation and something to do. Worrying is easy, so away it goes. And then I blame the worrying for being awake, when it's really the other way around.
He allowed how that might be possible. He really did have things to worry about. He had what he considered a small number of clients - let's say "N" - they took all his time and more than that. He started work an hour early and worked late and it was still not all done. He was exhausted from this but there was more to do.
I told him, You really have N+1 clients. And you're neglecting one of them."
He laughed. It's so true. For all our talk about self-care and needing to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others, we just don't think of ourselves as our clients, and don't give ourselves as good care as we do our other clients.
The solution is obvious.
Just not easy.