Wednesday, April 27, 2016
Monday, April 18, 2016
Thursday, April 14, 2016
In a marriage or other serious relationship, serving the partnership is a priority; you can't just go make major decisions without consulting the other partner.
A partner who does that is signaling that the relationship has changed, although the other partner may not notice or may hang on hoping. Hope can be cruel!
But now that I am on my own, I have to learn to make my decisions without the customary consideration of how it affects Kris. This sounds stupid to write after all she has done, but feelings and habits are not rational.
I thought of this on the bus this morning, as I chewed over filing for an extension in my federal income taxes. It'd be nice to have that behind me, but they are especially complicated due to the divorce. I have to apportion the assets (income, withholding) from before the divorce...each of us gets half... and that post divorce. This would not be so bad if I had access to my old spreadsheets but the crash and switch to Mac means I have to learn how Mac Numbers works. I had hoped the lazy way ...TurboTax...would do the trick but, although it seems much better than when I first tried it tears ago, it still doesn't do divorce apportionment.
The logical thing to do is filed an extension. I've done it before and it's no big deal. I thought of telling Kris and realized I don't need to: it is nothing to me. I am sure she counts on me to do her taxes and if she brings the subject up I'll advise an extension, but it is no longer my mission in life to buttress our relationship.
Quite the opposite.
Wednesday, April 13, 2016
The work at WSBA afforded even more opportunity for creativity, since they had neglected whole segments of service .... a little too much opportunity, it seems, for the IT Department, shamed at yet another failure of theirs that I had warned of, eliminated my position (and continued their career of expensive failure.)
I learned then, at age 50, on the street, the creative opportunity of starting over. Ageism is a thing and its only comfort is the sure knowledge that the young managers who are afraid to hire someone older than themselves will one day meet it themselves. Fortunately I put together a business that by hook and crook covered my expenses ... until Kris decided she loved alcohol more than me and I had to start covering the mortgage alone.
As a stopgap, I turned to one institution that by law is blind to grey hair, and am now working for the government being a cog. I enjoy serving the people who call for help; it's satisfying when I can get them WHT they need and when I cannot at least there is the consolation of providing dignified and respectful service.
But it's not creative. By design, and appropriately so, it is highly, highly regulated. It is perhaps the most ordered environment I have ever experienced, and that in itself is an experience.
This orderliness leaks over into the rest of life. I now have only a certain segment of free time between work sessions and to this rigidity must adapt, for a while at least. I ask myself: Is this how most people live?
"ORDINARY" comes from the Latin "ordo" meaning rule, regulation or structure. Ordinary life was originally that according to a set of rules, only later coming to mean unexceptional or typical. This new ordinary for me appears to be the rule for most.
I may have missed a lot of opportunity for understanding by not experiencing the non-creative life. I might never have understood this until compelled to experience it. This is wonderful! It's always something new around, even when it is the ordinary.
Sunday, April 10, 2016
I feel today was very fortunate. I located a lot of good materials for the online store set them up for shipping before bed. My housemates suggested we do milkshakes at Full Tilt, something I never think to do on my own, but was always turns out to be worth it! But the greatest piece of luck may have been whacking my glasses while lifting some heavy boxes. This is through the glasses so out of shape that I absolutely had to go to an optometrist to get them adjusted. The adjustment went swiftly and without any problem, and they would not even charge me the result was like getting new glasses. Frames had gradually bent over the years and really had not been quite right for a long time, but I had not thought see if there was an optometrist at the Alaska Junction, but course there is! What had started out as an unfortunate accident turned out to be a fortunate adjustments I'm sure there's a lesson to be learned from that, if only I knew what it is
Wednesday, April 06, 2016
Friday, March 25, 2016
My major hobby is books. Sort of. Every week I collect a dozen or more cartons from various sources, most if which end up on the book carts and end tables of our local VA hospital. I can tell that's popular, partly because people who go there tell me, but also because they're gone the next week.
(I can tell it's not the cleaning staff tossing stuff because they're in approved areas but also because the occasional book in Roumanian is never taken.)
I sort these usually so the process is faster, and there is some recycling - mold or excessive wear is best treated that way. Over time this leaves me with a collection of empty shopping cartons, which I try to use in other work, but they add up. Earlier this week someone asked " Buy Nothing West Seattle (South)" for boxes and ah-ha! They found a use. How wonderful!
I decided to post my carton of Romanian books. The only reply there was someone looking for books, any books to sell at a local school's fundraiser. I looked at my stock and saw I had enough to spare for this good use. They picked up a load from me later night and I realized that this was an annual sale that I had enjoyed myself for several years. I'm happy to contribute, or to facilitate the combinations, I just hope I don't end up buying too much if it back!
Monday, March 21, 2016
“Only the right to bear arms can prevent the tyranny of a Trump presidency,” said Cruz. “Where better to use that right but here, in Cleveland, home of the fragmentation grenade?”
“This is huge,” agreed Trump. “Everyone knows I have a remarkably good throwing arm. Back in the 70s, I pitched two no-hitters for the Cleveland Cavaliers. To make it easier for little Ted, we’re going to have our duel chained together, ankle-to-ankle - that way he can run but he can’t hide."
RNC officials were ecstatic at the agreement, which had been brokered by losing candidate, Ohio governor John Kasich. “We must avoid the spectacle of a convention that makes any decisions,” said RNC Chair Rince Priebus. Kasich beamed in agreement. “Two walk in, one (or less) walks out.”
An WTFNBC poll found the idea proposal favored by 96% of Americans; factoring in a 5% margin of error showed near-unanimous agreement that the result of a grenade duel at the Republican National Convention would be good for America.